Fun at the dentist!
Today Jian went to her first dental appointment in America, and it was very pleasant! The hygienist was exceptional, showing Jian all of the tools and allowing her to play with them and see how they work. She understood and followed commands and allowed her teeth to be cleaned, flossed, have a fluoride treatment and x rays. She studied a picture on the wall before her x ray and sat in the chair and knew exactly what to do before being told. She is going to need a lot of work, so we will plan to have her put to sleep and have it all done at once.
Afterwards, we stood in line at the DMV for 2 hours to get her Handicapped Parking permit, only to be turned away once we got to the desk because we have not received her social security card in the mail yet. At that point, I did not have any fight left in me. I had a little pity party for myself on the way home, then realized that I should just be thankful that I have the ability to carry her for long distances until we can get the parking permit. She is becoming increasingly fixated on who owns which possessions, pointing to everything in the house and asking if they are hers, mine or Daniel’s. She can’t seem to understand that everything belongs to all of us. She is still confused about the concept of family.
She has been going through a daily ritual of bathing, dressing, and feeding all of her baby dolls and putting them to bed. Today she turned on her Chinese lullabies and closed the door while they slept. As I watch how precise and determined she is during these tasks, I catch a glimpse of a 90 year old Jian explaining to her physical therapist that there is absolutely no reason why she shouldn’t still be mowing her own grass. Her determination is unlike anything I have ever seen!