I Met A Girl
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5
I was asked to memorize this scripture as a teenager. At the time, it was honestly just a group of words that I could recite, having no idea of the impact they would later make on my life when put into practice.
When we traveled to China 3 years ago to bring Jian home, I remember being so excited and thinking that I couldn’t wait to adopt again and again. But when we came home and our new reality began to settle in, I realized that we may very well have an only child. This was in part because I had an unrealistic and immature expectation that our sweet girl would fit right in to the “good life” that we had established. Little did I know that the Lord cared for me so much that He was about to turn that good life on its head.
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 1 John 2:15
As a couple of years went by and we watched Jian blossom in every way, I began to tentatively ask God about His plan for our family’s future. There was a time, mind you, that I would not even dare bring up this subject in prayer. But as I started to pour my heart out and ask the Lord for help and guidance, things started to move in a different direction. I asked that if it was His will for us to adopt again that He would help Jian to become a bit more independent. This is when everything started to fall into place with us finding her surgeon in Baltimore.
We traveled to Baltimore in February and scheduled her surgery for May. In March, our adoption agency hosted a Kids Camp where 13 children from China came to the US in order to experience our culture, have some medical evaluations done and meet people who could help advocate for them to be placed into families. I had been planning for a couple of years to make trips to China to serve and advocate for the children, but Jian had not been ready for me to leave for that length of time. I was delighted to find out that I could volunteer in the same capacity literally 5 minutes from my house. I asked to volunteer my time to do occupational therapy assessments for the children, but it turns out that this was not a need. They did need general volunteers to play with the children, though. I had a half day that worked in my schedule, so I signed up for that morning.
As my eyes have become open to the millions of children in the world who are without parents, they each quickly fall into one of two categories for me:
- This is a precious child. She deserves to have a loving family. I will pray and help advocate for her to find them.
- This is my daughter, and I will stop at nothing to bring her home.
Periodically something will nudge me, and I will log onto the Waiting Children page on Lifeline’s website. Since we found Jian, I believe I counted 7 children who have caught my attention and I felt the need to inquire a little bit more about them. Each time, after prayer, I quickly figured out that they were in the first category. Sometimes it took a day, sometimes as long as a week.
But something different happened at this camp.
I met a girl.
She caught my attention immediately. I knew that she would fit perfectly into our family if we were planning to adopt again right now. Which we weren’t. So I tried to put it out of my mind. We had Jian’s surgery coming up, after all. But I couldn’t get her off my mind after a day. Or after a week. There is a long, complicated, beautiful story that unfolded over the next six months. My heart simply wouldn’t let go of her.
We are ecstatic to announce that we have received Pre Approval (PA in adoption lingo) from China to bring our girl home! The three of us couldn’t be more excited about adding her to our family. She is precious and so very special, and my life has already been forever changed as a result of meeting her. I thank God for hearing our prayers and directing our paths in a way that will bring glory to His name. And for continuing to teach me that there is such a richer way to live when we let go of this world and trust Him completely.
But you are…His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” 1 Peter 2:9