The Cost of Adoption
“It’s a shame that adoption costs so much. If it weren’t so expensive, more people would do it.”
I have heard this statement and seen comments similar to this numerous times on social media. Recently when I came across it again, it caused me to pause. And I began to wonder: Where exactly are all of these people who are waiting in line and knocking at the door of adoption agencies, only to sadly turn away when they are told that the fees would cost “x” amount?? Maybe some exist, but I don’t personally know any.
No, the people I know who have the heart for adoption and decide to take that leap of faith are:
A.) Scared to death about what it is going to mean for them, including how they are going to come up with the finances to pay for the adoption itself in a short period of time.
And B) Completely committed and dependent on God to provide for what He has called them to do.
Just like they would do for their biological children, they are willing to do whatever it takes to bring that child safely home.
I am afraid that what actually turns people away is the true cost of adoption. Yes, the $20,000 or $30,000 or $40,000 sounds like a high price. But I think most parents who have walked this road will tell you that this is the least of the cost involved.
What adoption actually costs is: Everything.
When you decide to take this journey, God is about to do a work in you that you cannot possibly see coming. From my experience, you are going to be stripped of everything your life up until this point has known. It might cost your freedom, your time, your energy, your career, even other relationships.
For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. Matthew 16:25
But isn’t this the very definition of Christianity?
Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” Matthew 16:24
When we are able to understand the high cost involved and still willingly give up everything to make it happen, we have understood what it means for us to be children who are adopted into God’s family.
He was willing to give up everything to save us. He saw us here, hopeless, with no one else to help and chose to leave His home in heaven and live as a humble servant on this earth. He was poor and rejected by His own family members, beaten and killed as an innocent man, to make it possible that I could have a home in heaven one day.
When you think about it from this perspective, maybe the $20,000 doesn’t look so expensive after all.
God knew that we were worth the cost, and I can assure you that these sweet little souls are worth it as well. And the irony of it all is that through giving up everything, we are left with lives that are far richer than the ones we previously knew.
He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. 3 And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 18:2-4